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Why lie?
Feb 13, 2017 1:30:27 GMT
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Post by kaylag05255 on Feb 13, 2017 1:30:27 GMT
So I thought I could trust one of my good friends but that somewhat changed on Friday. Earlier that week this friend came up to me and told me he told he guy that I really like that I had liked him and the guys respect was I know so I got over it. Then my friend said don't give up on him so I tried not to. Then in Friday my friend came up yo me and I told him I felt like I should give up on the guy I liked and he just told me not to do I just when on with it. Later that day I texted my friend ask why shouldn't I give up on that and he said that he had talked to him and I ask what was said and his response was that he thought I should just stay friends with that person. So out of curiosity I asked him why he thought that and he said that the person said that he was 18 and when I read that text it didn't seem right to me because I'm almost 18 too so I ask if that's all that person said and he said yes. In my head a red flag went off and that did not seen at all right to me, so I did the last thing I would of thought of and pick up my phone and texted that one guy and ask if what I just heard was true and he said that he never got a text from him that day. At that moment I didn't know what to think because my friend I thought I could really trust prove me wrong. So my question is why lie about something that will really hurt someone? And why mess with some ones hopes and felling?
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Post by AJackalsVoice on Feb 14, 2017 17:34:00 GMT
I can't say i fully understand exactly what has transpired but I will try to provide an answer to your questions.
People lie for many different reasons. Sometimes it is to protect themselves, other times it is to protect another. In some instances a half-truth is not a bad thing. I try to be an honest person and i feel that i am trustworthy. However, in the past I have told lies, as has everyone. In my experience the only time I would lie to a friend would be to promote an action for them. Using your story as an example, I may have told you to 'not give up because I have spoken with them', in an attempt to spur you on. Not to hurt your feelings, but to persuade you to follow your heart. To give you some confidence. That would be the only reason, as a friend, I could see to lie. I do not think that the lie is needed though. It would be simpler for me to just say 'Give it a try'. I don't encourage lying, but I do understand why some people do it.
I think I answered both questions there. If this person is a real friend then i would assume they had you best interests at heart. Confront them and question why they said what they did. If you find that they did in fact intend to hurt you then try not to get upset. in life we gain friends and lose friends. Its a part of growing up I suppose. I will say that if someone is a chronic liar that only seeks to serve their own needs you should remove them from your friendship circle. Surround yourself with honest and caring people. Granted you may find you have fewer friends in the end, but a trustworthy friend is worth a thousand Liars.
I hope this helped you in some way.
Jackal
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Post by kaylag05255 on Feb 15, 2017 1:28:43 GMT
Thank you that really did help with what you said and I will sit down and talk to the person and ask why he did that
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